Building a new D/s framework

Building a framework – the new way

Frameworks seems to facilitate growth. If I see D/s as a framework that will be able to grow in many directions I will just design the basics, the rest will develop in the parnership.

We both need

• Comfort in the family and  financial security
• A good marriage based on love and affection
• Everyday things should work well
• Fun and joy

Her special needs

• Control the way things are done at home.
• Work
• Studying

My special needs

• Submission
• Work
• Studying

Our basic needs are pretty much the same. We have the same goals for our marriage and base-relationship. We both use a lot of energy in our work and study, and both feel that those areas are important.

Looking at our special needs it should be quite clear that combining a “I want it my way”-profile with a “I want to submit-profile” should work very well. So based on our needs the road should be open. The basic  incitaments in the platform are present.

The framework should have windows for different actions

• A window for work.
• A window for familylife and chores.
• A window for studying
• A window for explicit D/s.

Basic rules

• She decides. I can argue and she will listen but she decides and I will respect it.
• I will service her – putting her wishes before my needs and making her life easy. I should clear the path for her removing obstacles in her way – preferably before she notices them.

Rules of conduct for me

• Work-time is my own time. She will respect this since it gives us financial security.
• All other time is family/choretime unless she decides otherwise.
  • I must ask permission for study/own-time.
    • I can do things for myself during study/own-time.
  • She decides when its explicit D/s-time
• In familytime and D/s-time my focus must be on what she wants. I have no rights and should be totally focus on her  or doing my chores.
  • Being a good familyfather will naturally be expected by her and should always be a part of familytime.

Chores

• She will make a list of chores for me to do.
  • The chores must be performed as described.

Her role

• Should expect service from me
• Should expect me to perform exceptionally

My wishes

• She will be active dominating
  • Punishing me when not satisfied
  • Make it hard for me to serve her

Looking at it as a framework seems to make things easy and complying to the simple rules should be easy.

Implementing the framework will be in steps starting with my behaviour adapting to the framework. She will not accept the framework unless she can see my intent reflected in my actions. So step 1 is my own compliance, living the rules, showing her the respect that will show my submission.

Step 2 will be her acknowledgement of the framework. Seen my behaviour and enjoying the attention should make this easy for her is my timing is right.

Step 3 will be her stepping into a more active dominant role. This I will be able to ask for when the framework is well adopted and my service to her is part of our everyday life. This may not be for a very long time.

Will it work?

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