I’ve had a lot of thought about principles of domination in a marriage. Or maybe I should say the principles of domination I wish to implement in my marriage.
Im trying hard to obey my wife and respect her wishes. One day I was frustrated and didn’t apply to her wishes. In the following days I have thought about the “mechanisms” of domination I wish to implement.
The basic idea is that I should feel the need to obey because I will receive a reward if I’m a good sub.
If I obey her and make her happy I could receive a reward. Perhaps I would be allowed to cuddle with her in the evening, maybe I will even be allowed to satify her orally.
If she isn’t satified with me she should deny me something, eg. no cuddling, no chat in bed, no kissing, etc.
If she is unsatified or irritated with me, e.g. I have denied something or have been to sloppy, I should be punished. Punishment being something that I dont like. e.g. cold shower next morning, sleeping on the floor og maybe even physical punishment like spanking.
good boy = Reward
Not so good boy = Denial
Bad boy = Punishment.
A general principle should be that her needs/wishes should overrule the above. If she wants to deny me for some reason, she should do it. If she wants sex when I’m a not so good boy, she shall have it her way. She might consider punishing me afterwards for beeing a not so good boy.
Another general principle should be that she controls my orgams. She decides when I can come and only her. If I come doing sex I will not be as eager to please her as if I am denied cumming. Denial means arousel. But continous denial generates frustrations and she should understand that I need to come sometimes.
Our everyday communications should be a normal everyday dialogue. She should not command me while the kids or the neighbours are around. I, on the other hand, must understand that her wishes must be obeyed and her polite request should be understood as a direct command that must be obeyed.
Many rules. The basic is that I should strive for her reward and I should fear her punishment.